I recorded this with Erika Sardinha (The Gentle Badass) because I needed to hear it as much as anyone else did.
We talked about consistency.
There was a version that broke me first (do everything, every day, perfectly, or none of it counts) and the version I’m still learning instead: a savings account, not a perfect streak (thanks, Tina Nayak). Whatever you can add, on the days you can add it.
Somewhere in there I asked her the question I actually wanted answered: what does living between countries do to your nervous system, and can something as small as a habit hold that. Her answer wasn’t what I expected — structure as the antidote to anxiety, “non-negotiables” as a way of building “home” inside yourself when nowhere outside agrees on what home even means.
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